What Happened to You?
#1 of 2 in What Happened to You? Series
What’s inside...
The first ever picture book addressing how a disabled child might want to be spoken to. What happened to you? Was it a shark? A burglar? A lion? Did it fall off? Every time Joe goes out the questions are the same . . . what happened to his leg? But is this even a question Joe has to answer? A ground-breaking, funny story that helps children understand what it might feel like to be seen as different. This accessible, funny, and groundbreaking story addresses the questions children often ask, as well as a disabled child's choice not to answer. What happened to you? Was it a shark? A burglar? A lion? Did it fall off? A boy named Joe is trying to play pirates at the playground, but he keeps being asked what happened to his leg. Bombarded with questions and silly suggestions, Joe becomes more and more fed up...until the kids finally understand they don't need to know what happened. And that they’re wasting valuable playtime! Based on the author’s real childhood experiences, this honest, funny, and authentic picture book is an empowering read for anyone with a disability, and for young readers learning how best to address differences.
Discussion points
How did Joe's experiences in the book make you feel?
Why do you think the other children were curious about Joe’s leg?
What would you do if you were in Joe’s place when other children asked about his leg?
Can you think of a time when you were asked about something personal? How did you handle it?
What are some ways we can be kind and understanding to people who are different from us?
Tip: Role play these questions
Start by asking your child how they understood the story and if they can relate to Joe, this opens up a natural and comfortable conversation.
Encourage your child to express their feelings and thoughts about the story, affirming all kinds of emotions as they speak.
Discuss the importance of empathy and understanding. Use examples from the book to highlight how questions can sometimes make others uncomfortable.
Use the book as a starting point to educate about diversity and disability. Explain how everyone has unique challenges and strengths.
Reinforce the message that curiosity is natural, but it’s important to respect others’ feelings and privacy.
Key lessons
Example Lesson: Empathy and Understanding
Explanation: In 'What Happened to You?', characters inquire about Joe’s missing leg, which provides a platform to teach readers about empathy by considering Joe's feelings.
Real-World Application: Children learn to be considerate of others' feelings and situations, fostering a more inclusive and understanding behavior in school and social settings.
Example Lesson: Resilience and Self-Acceptance
Explanation: Joe continuously embraces his identity throughout his interactions, highlighting the importance of self-acceptance despite physical differences.
Real-World Application: This encourages children to accept their unique qualities and those of others, promoting self-confidence and resilience in facing personal challenges.
Example Lesson: Curiosity and Respectful Communication
Explanation: The book teaches that while curiosity about others is natural, the way questions are asked matters, emphasizing respectful communication.
Real-World Application: Children learn the importance of considering their words before speaking, ensuring they communicate respectfully with peers and adults.
Example Lesson: Inclusivity and Diversity
Explanation: Through Joe and his friends' varied responses and interactions, the book showcases the value of inclusivity and respecting diversity.
Real-World Application: This helps children understand and embrace diversity in their communities, leading to more harmonious and inclusive group interactions.